Make a U-Turn In Your Stiletos and Walk Don't Run....5 Signs the Man In Your Relationship Is The Weak Link!

             Make a U-turn In Your Stilettos and Walk Don’t Run!

 Five signs the man you are with is the weak link in your relationship

 Any relationship is only as committed as the least committed person.  How much you want the relationship to work or what you are willing to do to make it work can only go so far IF he  is less committed than you… so why waste your time…get out while the getting is good!    You really can’t make anyone commit who doesn’t want to, but you can set yourself  up for heartache, disappointment and loss if you  ignore the signs that the man in your life isn’t the Man for you.

 If you are making it easy for him, he may let you stick around, but that is not the same as being committed to you.  If you are willing to take what ever he dishes out without getting your needs and wants met, why should he make a change!  Read on and decide for yourself if You need to be the one to make a change.

He uses a past failed relationship OR his parents’ failed marriage as an excuse to be too afraid to get married.

 A man who is really in love with YOU and wants to have YOU  in his life, knows “putting a ring on it” is the natural progression of a committed relationship.  We all suffer loss, failure and painful family histories, but its time for him to put his “big boy pants” on and get over his fears for the sake of your relationship.    If you have a man in your life who says he doesn’t want to get married, doesn’t believe in marriage or has “issues” with marriage,   run, don’t walk and find yourself a real man who understands your needs and wants and values YOU enough to want to step up to the plate.  If you have no desire to get married, then by all means, keep the status quo.

He spends his money on his toys and interests rather than being generous to you

If he insists you pay “your share” while he spends generously on himself, consider that those who are stingy with their money are generally stingy with emotional investments as well.  I’m not saying you should enjoy a lavish lifestyle at his expense… loading up on designer handbags while he drives a stripped down Honda for example, but if a man is committed to YOU, he wants to make your life as easy for you as he can and most men take pride in being able to “spoil” the woman they love.  I tell women,  you should be able to afford yourself, but that doesn’t mean you should always have to  pay for yourself.  

He wants to spend time with you doing the things he wants to do and shows very little interest in the things You want to do

If  your “Couple  Time” mostly  revolves around his  interests and the things you want to do are largely ignored, consider you are making it too easy for him.   If you are not be a big sports fan,  for example, but you  get involved and  watch  sports with him or go to games because that’s his “thing”  he should be willing to take you to the latest “chick flick” …heck, he should be willing to take you to the Ballet…if that is important to YOU.  That’s what you do in mature adult relationships.

If he uses Social Media, but doesn’t list being in Relationship with You and doesn’t post pictures and comments about You and your good  times  together

If his Facebook page is all about the good times he has with his buddies and his  pictures center around his hobbies and  his car, but you are no where to be seen… consider he not only isn’t broadcasting to the world he is in a relationship with You,  he isn’t even acknowledging  you.  That can’t be good.

When the two of you disagree or fight, you have to be the one who gives in because he simply will not

All couples have disagreements and even fights…if you have been together for more than a month, chances are, you have already had times when you didn’t agree…that’s normal.  What is not normal is when one person consistently expects to get their way and does.  People in mutually supportive relationships understand sometimes you can compromise and sometimes you cannot.  When you cannot compromise, then one person needs to give in…the same person should not always be designated as the one to do it.  Instead, both sides should be considered and whoever makes the stronger case or has the strongest feelings should be accommodated.  In other words, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.  But if he expects to always win, at your expense, then he is sending you a clear message…” he doesn’t care how you feel or what is important to you when it is in conflict with his needs and wants”.  So why should you continue to invest your time and resources in a relationship that is so one-sided.

 Actions speak louder than words so if your Man is saying all the “right things, ”but his actions say something else, trust the actions. 

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